Difficult People

You know, as a parent going into the land of adoption, that you’re going to have to deal with social workers. What you find, though, may not be what you expect. Social workers are no different that other people. Some have good hearts, pure motives and an amazing ethical foundation. Some don’t. You would think that a person goes into it with one goal in mind- to help kids who are in difficult circumstances fit into the right family. Sometimes that gets lost after time and the person you see has become hard. Their idealistic idea of helping kids has gotten jaded by the situations they find themselves in every day and the bad attitudes of the people they deal with. Before you know it, the kind-hearted social worker has become disappointed, frustrated and hurt. They are not so easy to relate with. They can be demanding, critical, and hardened to the people on their team. Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between the “good guys” and the “bad guys” and you just have to concentrate on keeping your own attitude in check and staying true to the goal of helping kids.

You know, as a social worker going into the land of adoption, that you’re going to have to deal with adoptive parents. What you find, though, may not be what you expect. These parents are no different than other people. Some have good hearts, pure motives and an amazing ethical foundation. Some don’t. You would think that a person goes into it with one goal in mind- to help kids who are in difficult circumstances fit into the right family. Sometimes that gets lost after time and the person you see has become hard. Their idealistic idea of helping kids has gotten jaded by the situations they find themselves in every day and the bad attitudes of the people they deal with. Before you know it, the kind-hearted adoptive mom or dad has become disappointed, frustrated and hurt. They are not so easy to relate with. They can be demanding, critical, and hardened to the people on their team. Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between the “good guys” and the “bad guys” and you just have to concentrate on keeping your own attitude in check and staying true to the goal of helping kids.